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In many cases this is one of those life situations that can cause an emotional roller coaster. As I've mentioned in one of my first posts here the act of giving can be incredibly deep and meaningful to the giver.
When this passing of care, love, and intimate feelings are interrupted in some way a great deal of hurt can follow. Hurt that can be greatly squelched if only the question of why was answered. The problem is many people returning gifts are afraid of a confrontation or to hurt you any further and will try to be as vague as possible.
The good thing is you can find closure in some of the most common reasons why a gift has been returned below. First, how should you handle the situation when it first happens? What to do when a person returns a gift? Etiquette tomes all say the same thing, there is only one thing to do when someone says no thank you and that's to accept its return without confrontation or making any sort of a grand ballyhoo.
Your emotions may rise and you might even be slightly shocked or put off.
Try to keep all of this in check and accept the item back with grace. In a calm tone you can also ask why your friend is giving the item back?
If the reason is something you feel is a misunderstanding you can gently ask them to please reconsider taking it. If they still refuse that should be the end of it. Keep a stiff upper lip, say OK and move on. I like to think gift giving is, not about you or me, it's about them!
They might be setting healthy boundaries which are deeply personal to them. For more on healthy boundaries, including gifts, watch online this video by one of my favorite YouTuber's holistic psychotherapist Victoria Lorient-Faibish.
The person returning your gift might be trying to send you a message or they might actually be acting in your better interest. The latter of which could be one of the best and most meaningful gifts to receive.
That's why it's important not to jump to conclusions or take anything too personal initially. Especially if we're talking about an established relationship of many years. Here is what I've found: They simply do not like it.
Yes, this has to be one of the few reasons that isn't very socially sound or high on the etiquette list. Still it's a valid reason and it can be common among close friends who frequently swap gifts anyway. What can be hurtful is when a person you do not know well returns a gift with a frank, I hate this or This is so ugly why did you give me this?
This sheds a lot of light on the individual you're dealing with and what their level of gratitude and entitlement is for more on what should have been done, read this by Emily Post.
Accept the gift back graciously and think twice about giving anything else to this particular person in the future. The gift didn't fit. This again is very common among close friends and relatives.
This is also another good reason to read our The Top Gifts Your Shouldn't Give article which helps guide you through avoiding particularly tricky gifts that might not go over very well. If you're gift didn't come with a gift receipt the person might feel it better to give the gift back to you instead of re-gifting it or trying to sell it.
They already have one. Great minds think alike and someone else might have beat you to the pass. In most cases the person returning the gift will let you know flat out that your gift is a duplicate. Take it back and either use it yourself or try to get your money back.
One nice thing about the latter is you can use the refund to purchase another gift and try again.In a speech that was comprised of only 10 sentences and words, Lincoln was able to strike a chord that would resonate not only with his audience, but one that would resonate through time.
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